Married couples dating other people
Everything was just on a default setting." Antoinette agrees: "The moment we chose to step off the relationship escalator, we had to say, 'Okay, what are we doing?' " Another married but open couple in New York City, Sam and Kate, say they'll sometimes share partners and sometimes date separately.Antoinette, a physical therapist, says she's "the hinge of a V"; she has a relationship with her husband as well as with Gary, a long-term boyfriend.
When he brings home that buzz of confidence, it's a major turn-on for Kate. T., a sex and relationship therapist in Minneapolis.
"We'd just never talked about it before." Neither of them could get past it.
"He felt like I disrespected the relationship; I felt like I was walking on eggshells." Lots of monogamous people know that walking-on-eggshells feeling.
You can view all of this as a titillating fantasy, or just listen to these couples with an open mind. "Half the women that I date want to date her, and they're all so disappointed in her heterosexuality.
I can't pretend that this is just always going to be there."That desire to continuously be a better partner — that's where open couples might be onto something.